Catch Up

Hello!

I didn't blog over the weekend. OOPS. And I don't really have too much time to blog tonight, so I'm going to do a QUICK RUNDOWN of what I did on the days that I did NOT blog (and also today).

Friday: My parents came into town to help me and my sister find a place to live. No success. The hunt continues. Eric came to eat dinner with me and my parents and sister PLUS my dad's brothers, my aunt, and my cousin. Eric's now met ALMOST everyone in my family. He only lacks my dad's mom and an aunt, uncle, and cousin. CRAZY.

After dinner, Eric and I went to Relay for Life, which is this all night fundraiser for cancer research. We didn't ACTUALLY stay all night though. Eric left at 12:30, and I left at 3:30. The walk back to my dorm was really scary. I've never walked so quickly and with such high levels of ALERTNESS.

Saturday: Slept in a bit and then went to Vol Visit at the CSC. Basically, I just ate food and talked to people, although the POINT of the day was to welcome prospective students and show them around campus and stuff. After lunch we went on an ADVENTURE to the lake for Paul the Australian's SORT OF going away party (maybe). We rode in a boat! And explored a shore! It was funny because Eric got REALLY INTO trying to FIGURE THINGS OUT. And, actually, I just looked it up and we DID figure it out. Norris Lake is actually a RESERVOIR. A dam raises the water level at certain times. We've solved the mystery of the water line!

ANYWAY. After that, Eric and I hung out for a bit and then got some dinner. AND THEN his roommate OFFICIALLY moved out (returned his key to Eric). Then we hung out some more, he dropped me off, I Internetted for a bit, and Saturday was over.

Sunday: Church in morning. Asian Kitchen with PEOPLE (I am SO SOCIAL these days) for some pho. Hung out at Eric's. I took a nap while he was PRODUCTIVE. Ate some leftovers for dinner and Eric's NEW roommate officially arrived (took key from Eric). Then we went to the CSC for church. We got there early, so we played some bachi ball (I have no idea if that's how it's spelled). Then Eric climbed a tree to get some dead limbs. It made me a BIT nervous at times, but it was also amusing. Mostly I was scared he was going to jerk too hard on a dead limb that would suddenly give way, throwing him off the tree and to the ground. BUT. That did not occur. Then we did the church thing. Eric led singing and did a good job, ESPECIALLY considering he'd been asked to lead singing earlier that evening (no time for PREPARATION). After church I went back to Eric's apartment for MORE hanging out. I actually did SOME homework this time while he was ALSO productive. WOOHOO. Then he took me back here, where I am NOW. Since being here, I've done INTERNET things and talked to Sydney and my mom on the phone.

And that concludes my account of the weekend! Sorry this is a BORING blog. I figure Julia will actually APPRECIATE the information though (since I know she ACTUALLY reads this). If Eric still reads, then he already knows all of this stuff, but OH WELL. Jaitee's not going to read it since she doesn't even read my blogs on Supernatural Slash! (hahahaha). And bridgette's BUSY. So, WHATEVER. A boring blog will do! I WILL do a bit about SOMETHING I AM THINKING before I end though. JUST CAUSE.

Thoughts: Okay, so I was talking to a friend on facebook tonight, and she's having problems with high suck levels in her life. Which, you know, sucks. But then she started going on about how whenever she tries to talk to someone about how much everything sucks, they always respond WRONG. And I don't know...it just made me think. Like, she was frustrated because oftentimes people try to offer her advice or really cliche words of comfort (you'll feel better in the morning, etc.), and she just wants people to LISTEN and to say that they care and WHATEVER. And I UNDERSTAND that feeling. I do. But the thing is, there's only so many times that you can say "that sucks" and "I'm sorry." Eventually, you feel like you should add something more meaningful to a conversation. And if you feel bad because a situation sucks, you want to try to fix it, you know? So you offer advice. Or, if you can't fix it, you want to at least comfort the person. And maybe you can't figure out the RIGHT words, so you end up saying something cliche. But, to me, the point is that what's BEHIND that is that a person cares about you, you know? They're trying to help however they can.

But MORE THAN THAT, this thing made me think that you really can't rely on people to say what you want them to say, you know? Like, I may be sitting there really needing someone to tell me something. I feel like I should make this example more specific. Okay, so I might really need some VALIDATION from Eric. But the thing is, I can't expect him to KNOW that I need that from him at that moment. If I want it, I either have to ask for it or be okay with not getting it. And if I need someone to SERIOUSLY just listen to what I'm saying without offering advice or words of comfort, I need to TELL them that that's what I need up front (although I don't think I would ever want this...I like advice and comfort). You can't just EXPECT people to be what you want them to be and then get upset when they're not, you know? And EVEN MORE than that, it's sort of...I don't know. You just can't expect people to be what you want them to be all the time. People are just people. They'll be who they are. Sometimes that will be EXACTLY what you need, and sometimes it's not enough. That's why you have to learn how to find what you need somewhere else. For me, it's in God and in myself, I guess. For other people, maybe it's in art or something. WHO KNOWS? The point is that I appreciated the reminder that I can't expect people to be more than people.ESPECIALLY because just after having this thought, I had my chat with Syd on the phone and I was SO disappointed in her response to something I said. And then I reminded myself of the thought that I'd had MOMENTS BEFORE and felt BETTER. I still didn't like her response, but I didn't let it undermine how I was feeling, I guess? SURE.

Anyway, I've rambled on LONG ENOUGH. Time for bed!

-Leah