Men vs. Women

Hello!

I'm going into this with NO PLAN for what to write about, which always results in my VERY BEST POSTS. OH WAIT. No, it doesn't. OH WELL.

Hmm. Today, I was RESEARCHING the differences between men and women, what men want, what women want, etc. (according to The Internet). It was QUITE interesting. Some of it was PROBABLY right, while other stuff was DEFINITELY wrong. And then pretty much ALL of the things might be true for MOST men or women but weren't necessarily true for EVERY man or woman. I'll do a list of THINGS I LEARNED and my THOUGHTS on these things.

1. Men tend to think in COMPARTMENTS while women tend to think GLOBALLY. Basically, this means that men have different boxes for work, girlfriend, home, etc., and these things don't really INTERACT in his BRAIN. Women, on the other hand, think of EVERYTHING in relation to EVERYTHING ELSE. I'd say this is true of me to a certain extent, but The Internet made it sound like all women are severely ADHD or something and can't focus on one problem at a time OR put things from their minds when they need to focus on something else. I think that's too extreme. I also think The Internet's take on the degree to which men compartmentalize is TOO MUCH. The Internet seemed to think that if they were having a fight with a lady friend, they could COMPLETELY FORGET ABOUT IT while at work and in the "work compartment" and not even remember the fight when they got home and the woman brought it up again. I'm pretty sure men aren't THAT focused on their jobs. They PROBABLY think of things OTHER than work when at work, even when they're in their "work compartment," and I'm sure stress in their personal life would cause them to be more stressed out in general and maybe even less able to handle things at work despite this "work compartment." RIGHT? Maybe not. I really don't understand much about men.

2. Men want women who are OPEN and HONEST about their feelings and clear about their wants and needs. This was INTERESTING because it made me think that maybe I'm not clear enough about my wants and needs sometimes. I DUNNO. A lot of the time I REALLY don't care, but sometimes I do KIND OF care but say that I don't. But the thing is, it all depends on HOW MUCH I care and how much I think the OTHER person cares, you know? I don't even know.

3. Women want men to be sensitive--but not TOO sensitive. Basically, The Internet was saying that women get turned off if I guy breaks down on them or whatever. I would like to note that THIS particular post was written by a MAN. Yeah. A man wrote an article about what women want. CLEARLY you should trust that source. But anyway, here is what *I* want in relation to sensitivity: I want a guy (or anyone) to be HONEST about how he feels. People should be allowed to show emotion how they want to show emotion. If they cry every time they're happy, bring on the water works. If they giggle when they're sad, that's weird, but whatever. Although if a person has these WEIRD responses to their emotions, they should also TELL me what they're feeling because these cues are all over the place. Actually, a person should tell me how they're feeling in general because I'm not always awesome at picking up on the subtleties. AND a person should tell me WHY they're feeling what they're feeling. Basically, if I care about a person, I want to know how they're feeling and why they're feeling that way so that I can lend support and help in whatever way I can, and I want the person to feel safe displaying their emotions without worrying they'll repulse me. Because that is stupid. The lesson of this point on the list: Men should not write articles about what women want.


And I'm going to end this now because Alicia just left the room, and I'd like to take the opportunity to do some work on the Sekrit Project (that is no longer a secret). Goodnight!

-Leah